Whether to do a Home Funeral?

If you are debating whether to request a home funeral, lead a home funeral event or even to participate in a home funeral, there are some aspects to consider.

Understand as much as possible about home funerals: both the process and experience. You will need to clearly understand both death and home funeral regulations in your state. Regulation will encompass rights, procedures and documentation. Currently, according to Funeral Consumer Alliance, the states that restrict home and require a licensed funeral director are: Connecticut, Louisiana, Indiana, Michigan, Nebraska, New Jersey and New York. You may still be able to undertake certain activities. While most states require a funeral director, most allow a non-licensed individual, such as a family member, to act as such as long as no money is exchanged. Home funerals are not possible when death involves certain infectious diseases. If you have concerns, speak to the physician who signs the death certificate. Home funerals are also difficult if the body is in poor physical condition.

If you would like a home funeral, you will need to provide explicit instructions, preferably notarized. Whether the home funeral is for you or a family member, additional help will be required. In addition to family and friends, consider using the services of a certified death midwife.

Keep in mind that a home funeral is not an all-or-nothing proposition. Even with professional death care, it is still possible to participate in some parts of the process. Be sure to confirm a funeral home’s willingness to work with you before committing and inquire whether doing so will incur an additional charge for coordination.

Lisa S.
August 19, 2010