What Do People Really Wear to a Funeral?

Some of the conventions related to attire have fallen by the wayside in recent years.  Casual clothing is worn for work, school and most social occasions.  This has caused many people to wonder exactly what to wear to a funeral.  Different religions and cultures have their own traditions for funeral attire.  This article will discuss what is currently appropriate in American society.
It’s not necessary to make a fashion statement at a funeral.  Instead, the focus should be on paying respect to the deceased and providing emotional support to the deceased’s family.  Unless the family has specified that funeral attendees dress casually or wear a certain type of clothing, funeral apparel should be modest, respectful and conservative.  Muted, dark colors such as black, charcoal gray and navy blue are befitting for both men and women. 

Jeans are not appropriate for most funerals (unless the family has requested that everyone dress casually).  Women should choose a dress, skirt or dressy slacks.  Clothing that is too tight or revealing should be avoided.  The best choice for men is dark slacks, a white or dark dress shirt, and a necktie.  A suit jacket is a good choice for both men and women.  Dress shoes should be worn rather than sandals or sneakers.

If your wardrobe doesn’t include clothing that is formal enough for a funeral, consider buying or borrowing a few basic pieces.  If you are unlikely to wear such attire in the future, consider second hand stores like Goodwill. While they may not have a complete suit, they will have a selection of formal separates. Wearing appropriate attire sends a message that you understand the seriousness of the occasion and respect the feelings of the deceased’s loved ones. 

Catie W.
April 6, 2011